Ari Lennox On Craving Validation, Struggle With Self-Love: “It Is Truly A Miserable Existence”
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Ari Lennox was particularly vulnerable with her social media followers this week, opening up Wednesday (Aug. 30) about her struggles with validation and self-love.
“I hate that I crave validation in every ounce of my life. It is truly a miserable existence,” she began on X/Twitter. “I hate that I wish I was cool. I’m embarrassing. I don’t know when I’ll ever start loving myself. I don’t know if it’s possible. I can’t even enjoy all that I’ve created for myself.”
The “Waste My Time” singer, 32, also wallowed in the “mental misery” of craving love while also dismissing it from her life.
“It’s painful reality to not be loved yet to crave it so bad in the most harmful places. To not be able trust anyone. To want people around but to push them away simultaneously. It’s mental misery.”
See Lennox’s posts below:
I hate that I crave validation in every ounce of my life. It is truly a miserable existence. I hate that I wish I was cool. I’m embarrassing. I don’t know when I’ll ever start loving myself. I don’t know if it’s possible. I can’t even enjoy all that I’ve created for myself.
— Ari Lennox (@AriLennox) August 30, 2023
It’s painful reality to not be loved yet to crave it so bad in the most harmful places. To not be able trust anyone. To want people around but to push them away simultaneously. It’s mental misery
— Ari Lennox (@AriLennox) August 30, 2023
The aspiring actress expressed similar sentiments back in March, when she took to the same platform to share her fear that craving love so openly may have been “unattractive” to some.
“have I made myself unattractive by wanting love so bad,” she wrote in a since-deleted tweet from March 2023 (captured by HipHopDX). “By speaking about it? Complaining about it? I wish I didn’t crave it. I wish it didn’t make me blind, weak and so dangerously trusting. I wish I had no love inside of me. Wish I didn’t have emotions. Wish I didn’t care.”
One year prior, Lennox opened up to Dreamville leader J. Cole about her last album, Age/Sex/Location, sharing that much of it was about addressing the “codependent and validation seeking part of my life.”
“I remember the countless times I was kicked out of dating apps because they didn’t think I was really myself, it reminded me of those age/sex/location days where I actually wasn’t being myself in those chat rooms.”
She also intended, however, for the record to be a vehicle to embrace her unapologetic self, using language she could certainly draw from whenever she’s not feeling like her best self.
“No more tip toeing. No more docile. Providing grace and compassion to myself. Blocking those that no longer serve me or just literally not responding. Blocking the resistance to heal. Allowing accountability and maturing. Allowing growth to happen. Allowing self worth and self love and inner work to happen. Allowing therapy. Allowing dating me to happen. Doing things I like to do whenever I want.”
Last month, the beauty celebrated 7 months sober.
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