The pair attended the American Museum of Natural History‘s 2019 Museum Gala, and while the parents said it has been a difficult few days, they’re also planning on trying again for another baby.
“We’re going to have another one, just not now. It’s a question of time,” Alec, 61, told Extra at the event.
“It’s been hard,” the Saturday Night Live star added, saying that even in the wake of such a tragedy, the couple couldn’t be more bonded if they tried.
“If we were closer … I would be sewn to her,” Alec said.
Hilaria, 35, shared with PEOPLE during the event that she’s feeling both physically and emotionally “much better” after revealing the sad news, and doesn’t feel pressured to share her experiences as much as empowered.
“I feel like it’s making the best out of a bad situation because I feel like it’s an important message, that people are not alone,” she said. “People think [our lives are] all roses and diamonds and all that stuff. I think it’s important to be honest because we’re so much more similar, everybody is, than different.”
“It brings the world a little bit closer,” Hilaria continued. “But what has been very important for me, in my own healing journey, is to realize that I’m not alone, and so I want to do that for other people as well.”
In fact, sharing brought Hilaria a special connection that has helped her cope with the tragedy: Kimberly Van Der Beek, whose husband, James Van Der Beek, announced on this week’s Dancing with the Stars that she had lost the baby boy she was carrying.
“We connected, and I guess we truly know what’s going on for each other,” Hilaria told Extra of speaking with the mother of five. “It’s been tough. She’s very strong and my heart is with what’s going on with them.”
Hilaria revealed last week on her Instagram feed that she found out at her 20-week scan with her doctor that she had lost her baby. The news was especially devastating for the mother of four, who last suffered a miscarriage just seven months ago.
“We are very sad to share that today we learned that our baby passed away at 4 months. We also want you to know that even though we are not ok right now, we will be,” she wrote alongside a video of herself with her 6-year-old daughter Carmen Gabriela.
“I have my moments when I feel better then I have moments when I will get really sad. But I feel like time and healing and everyone’s support is helping me,” she said. “Spending time with my babies and husband helps so much. I’m so lucky to have them.”