Australian blogger, hairstylist, and bikini designer Rhiannon Abrahams appears to be reveling in the joys of pregnancy all over her Instagram — the healthy glow, the shiny hair, the smile-filled bonding with her unborn child. But that’s only part of the experience for Abrahams, who bravely posted a mama-to-be confession this week.
“Honestly I don’t ‘love’ being pregnant, all I want to say is ‘oh it’s so beautiful!’ But it just doesn’t feel that way (please don’t get me wrong, I feel so grateful and blessed I can get pregnant) and I want nothing more than to love it, but I just don’t,” she wrote on her Instagram. “I don’t like the changes, the hormones, the pain, not feeling as independent.”
Pregnancy is nothing short of an ordeal for many women, but admitting to such displeasure can often lead to judgment from others or self-imposed feelings of guilt. Which is probably why Abrahams’s post, liked more than 6,600 times, has elicited such supportive and relieved comments. “Amen sista!” one commenter posted. “I totally feel the same way and there is no shame in being honest! Some people do not understand the emotional side of it and only focus on the physical side sometimes. Even though the physical symptoms can be difficult too.”
Another noted, “Thank you for sharing, you’re not alone in feeling this way. As beautiful as the result is the journey isn’t necessarily as beautiful. I’m 22 weeks and I can totally relate with your sentiments.”
Still, Abrahams admitted, she is not immune to feeling the guilt. “I was afraid to say that to people because it seemed ‘wrong,’ and I’m a little afraid to be saying it here as well,” she explained. “But when I started being honest with some other moms, they opened up and it made me feel a lot better and normal!”
And the more women open up about the realities of pregnancy, the less likely they are to be stigmatized as ungrateful or downright bad moms-to-be.
Still, it hasn’t been all bad for Abrahams. “The only thing I love is the feeling of this baby,” she said. “Every time I feel a kick or movement it feels 100 per cent worth it all and makes me so happy!”
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