Formula for a Perfect Marriage

For the past 30 years, we have searched for the formula for the perfect marriage. Our subjects were hundreds of couples in our workshops and therapy sessions whom we asked to describe their dream marriage. "If your relationship was 'just right,'" we asked, "what behaviors would you engage in and what adjectives would you use to describe it?" Through a analysis of thousands of answers we arrived at an implicit formula embedded in every couple's dream. Translated into explicit language, it consists of just three words: safety, connection, and joy. ...