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    Lady and The Scamp

    Lady and The Scamp

  • How to turn down a date

    There's a sleazy guy on the train who is always trying to chat me up, and to change the subject I told him about a charity marathon I'm doing. Then he went and sponsored me £40, which is more than anyone else has! I am now concerned he will try to emotionally blackmail me into [...]

  • Facebook exes – when poking isn’t enough

    Recently an old friend of mine started flirting on Facebook. Both of us are married with kids (although I am separated from my husband) but it quickly escalated to flirty texts and the odd phone call... and finally we spent the night together. Not long after, he made it clear he wasn't going to let [...]

  • Casual sex – is it OK if she wants more?

    I went on a couple of dates with a girl and then we slept together. It was good, but once was enough for me so I haven't been in touch since. She just sent a text saying: "Well this is awkward...". I feel weird because we actually got on well. Maybe I could do a [...]

  • First date fails

    Recently I've had some great first dates but have struggled to find the right way to end them. Each time the girl says how much she enjoyed herself and how she'd like to see me again. I smile, lean in and either hug or kiss her. Yet when I try to arrange a follow-up date [...]

  • Should you get back together with an ex?

    Dear Lady and the Scamp, I have split up with my girlfriend of three years and it was quite amicable, so I'm wondering if we can continue sleeping together while we look for someone else? But I'm not sure how to broach it. We won't be hurting anyone just by continuing the physical side for [...]

  • ‘Help! I’ve fallen for my lesbian friend’

    Dear Lady and the Scamp, I recently started to fancy my friend. We've been meeting up every week and we always say goodbye with a hug. I had just about gained enough courage to ask her out when she told me she was a lesbian. Inside I feel as though a part of me has [...]

  • How to know if she really likes you

    Dear Lady and the Scamp, I really fancy my friend and one night I got the courage to tell her and she was like "oh that's sweet". Our texting then started to get flirtier and the next time we met, she snogged me (no alcohol involved). I was really happy, she was holding my hand [...]

  • ‘Is my long distance relationship worth it?’

    Dear Lady and the Scamp, I'm in long-distance-relationship with a guy from a chat site. I really don't think he lies about anything and we share pictures a lot. We talk every weekday, never on weekends. But he always avoids me when I ask him to chat on camera, or to come to my country. [...]

  • Should I dump him over his ex girlfriends?

    I have been with my boyfriend for four years. We don't live together, we fight very often and most of the time it's over his ex-girlfriends. He is in touch with all of them. He says they are his good friends: he does favours for them, buys stuff for them and get them gifts. He [...]

  • How to know when you’re in the ‘friend zone’

    Dear Lady and The Scamp, I was seeing a girl for about four months but then she decided to wanted to take it back a bit - so we still meet up occasionally but just as friends hooking up. I want it to be more but I'm concerned that we've fallen into the "friend zone". [...]

  • What to do when you catch your boyfriend watching granny porn

    Me and my boyfriend are extremely close, or so I thought until this weekend when I came across a programme he had recorded. It was a 40+ porn show, I burst into tears and couldn't bring myself to speak to him for the entire day. I'm 26 and he is 34, although I know he [...]

  • How to cope with a crush when you’re attached

    Dear Lady and The Scamp, My boyfriend is the most perfect guy I've ever met, I love him so much. But I'm ashamed to admit I've started really fancying another guy who I'm friends with. There's no way I would ever cheat on my boyfriend, but I can't stop thinking about this other guy. To [...]

  • How to move on after he’s moved on

    Dear Lady and The Scamp, I recently convinced my ex bf to go on a date with one of my best friends out of guilt, as I was seeing other people and he wasn't. Turns out they hit it off immediately and now they're together. Before we used to talk about everything but recently all [...]

  • How to tell if you’re on a date

    Dear Lady and the Scamp, I have been on two outings with a young, carefree girl from uni who is 10 years younger than me (I'm 30). First we went just for a coffee. She laughed at all my jokes and agreed with everything I said, she even invited me to do some meditation together. [...]

  • How quickly should you move on?

    Dear Lady and the Scamp, My girlfriend recently dumped me about something so trivial. But now she is very annoyed because a week and a half later, I started going out with my best friend. She claims my feelings for her therefore must have been fake, when honestly they weren't. She then apologized and says [...]

  • ‘Should I tell my girlfriend about my fetish?’

    Dear Lady and the Scamp, I am in my mid 20s so have had my fair share of dates and girlfriends, but I have been living with a fetish for wearing Lycra since I was about 12. I have no idea why I have it but I have a lot of outfits like shiny leggings [...]

  • Blame it on the alcohol

    Dear Lady and the Scamp, I'm friends with a guy from uni and on a recent night out we ended up kissing. The next day I told him I liked him but he got uncomfortable and mumbled something about blaming it on the drink and not being "into the seeing people thing". Now I'm confused [...]

  • How to get over a crush

    Dear Lady and the Scamp, I am 16 years old and about a year ago I joined a new club where I became friends with a girl, who I have developed a strong crush on. But she is 20 years old, has a boyfriend and doesn't appear interested in me. I know that to continue [...]

  • What to do when you don’t find him sexy

    Dear Lady and The Scamp, I've been on four dates with a guy and he's good boyfriend material and good-looking but for some reason I just don't find him sexy. I don't know whether I'm worrying about what others might think, what other relationships I might miss out on, whether he might not like me [...]

  • Why sex without commitment doesn’t work

    Dear Lady and the Scamp, I've had a casual relationship for about 8 months with a guy, I guess you would say we are 'friends with benefits'. We haven't met many times but text a lot. Over the Christmas holidays we haven't been in touch but the ridiculous thing is I think I've fallen for [...]